Trigger Point
Your triggers are your opportunities!
‘Don’t shoot the messenger! Pause before passing judgement. Everything that comes to us offers us an opportunity for expansion’.
Before you respond negatively to such a bold statement - let me continue to explain. I believe that absolutely everything that happens to us happens for a purpose. Even the difficult, painful stuff brings us lessons that can be tuned to our advantage if we are willing to stand back and observe them fully.
This may sound a bit fatalistic - as if we must just accept that we have little to no control over our life path - but it is far more complex than that - and - at the same time it is extremely simple. Paradoxical maybe - but true nonetheless.
Life will bring us the lessons we need to become perfected in love ❤️ I don’t mean the fluffy romantic kind - I mean the truth of who were made to be, and who we ARE at our core. It is how we meet these lessons that will determine how many we recieve. Sound unfair? Not at all! In fact it is because of the innate Goodness of God that the lessons arrive at all.
It may be hard to believe how all the difficulties we experience in life - frustrations, losses and failures - are all uniquely crafted for us as individuals. Yet it is how we meet these challenges that will determine our concept of them. Will we surrender and grow - or will we resist and meet them again in a different form?
This earthly life is really our very own ‘Earth Academy’! We are all enrolled prior to our birth. When we arrive we have many lessons to learn. Some of us will appear to have been dealt a very difficult life path - full of painful experiences and complex relationships. Others will appear to have a blessed life with a carefree upbringing and very few problems to overcome. Ours is not to reason why. It is more about coming to the understanding that there is purpose in everything - and that we are not merely a product of our environment.
Who we really are - on the inside - is not shaped by what happens to us - it is shaped by how well we are able to understand that we are universally loved. Once we grasp this truth - and embody it - we recognise that we have no need to strive for validation or recognition. We become accepting of the fact that we are loved unconditionally - from before our arrival here on Earth 🌎 and that we will continue to be loved after we physically leave.
The real challenge is in peeling back the layers of who we are not - to return to who we are! Hence the lessons we encounter 😉. Becoming a force of love in the world means relying less on ego to propel us forward - and more on heart-led decisions and actions. It will require a deep honesty and willingness to face our ‘darker side’ - the part of us that has not yet remembered the truth of who we are. It will mean accepting that we have made, and will continue to make, mistakes - to be unfair and to act selfishly without reason.
It is my experience that every time I am less than honest about my intentions- there is always a reason - and it is usually because I am trying to hide some aspect of myself because it is a part I am ashamed of. Once I am willing to be truly seen as I am then the fear of performance goes away.
Authenticity is freedom.
It is rare we say exactly what we mean because we are often operating out of fear. Fear of being seen as ‘not so nice’ - or fear of upsetting one another. We may have ulterior motives and therefore become manipulative in our relating. It is what we try to hide in ourselves that becomes our nemesis! We can create our own prison without realising it!
A friend of mine uses a tag line that resonates with me - she says -
‘Love is always the answer’ - I only recently understood this as I believe she intended. Previously I have held many erroneous ideas about what it means to love - for example - how to love those who have hurt us or who to continue to use and abuse us? Now I am clearer about what it means to love.
Love is not a feeling - Love is an action.
Love is a verb - a ‘doing’ word. Love is who we are meant to be in this world.🌎. It is our individual return to love that will bring about universal change on our planet. It is not merely a fuzzy feeling that we can ‘fall into’ or ‘fall out of’ - or the product of songs and movies. It is a commitment to becoming authentic in our relating.
FOOTNOTE:
Sometimes love is tough. It is not bending our will to fit in with another. It is not overlooking evil to appear accepting. It is not doing for someone what they need to do for themselves. It is not pretending we don’t mind when someone hurts us. Love can be fierce and uncomfortable and painful and may mean walking away or letting go.
What is your experience 🤔? I’m always open to hear your views.
As always I send you my blessings 🙌
And Much Love
Carole 💜🙏