Acceptance

What you resist will persist!

What you resist will persist!

Have you ever noticed? The very thing you try to run from will run after you! An unresolved relationship issue or a lesson you keep avoiding will keep coming around again and again until you face it and deal with it. The only way forward is to surrender. Accepting that the reason it persists is actually a lesson for your evolution - to further your growth as a human being. No, it’s not a punishment or God's way of forcing you into something. It is merely a lesson in allowing ‘what is’ to just be exactly as it is!

My own experience of trying to run from whatever I’m presented with in life that feels uncomfortable or awkward is that it is always futile. I can run and hide but I’ll go round in circles and eventually return to the same place. How long I stay there will be determined by how long I am willing to deny what’s right in front of me.

There are some experiences that cannot be explained even when we try to find the words. The usual logical thought processes don’t work. We are stuck within a paradox of feelings that simply don’t add up in the natural way of things. It is then we need to stand still and just accept whatever life presents to us without resistance - trusting that all things have purpose and allowing the lesson to emerge that will clarify our path.

Obviously I don’t mean we should accept abuse from others or allow ourself to be controlled or manipulated, what I’m talking about here is allowing life to flow and accepting that we cannot control all that comes to us within it.

Something I’ve recognised fairly recently is that when I just relax and accept ‘what is’ - without trying to force or manipulate situations- then whatever I need flows towards me with ease. So even events which in the past may have seemed to be distressing - like a sudden loss or a personal plan that doesn't work - these are actually all working together to bring me into a place of deeper awareness about who I am and to discover my place in this world.

As with everything there are no absolutes. There is a time to take action and a time to make decisions. There is also a time to stand back and observe what is happening to us beyond the physical, practical aspects of our daily life. Look at the people in your sphere of influence - how has your circle changed over time? Who is close to us - and why? Who has faded away - and why? What can we learn from those we share our lives with?

Everyone we meet is a mirror 🪞 to us. They will mirror whatever we need to learn about who we are. Sometimes it will be a difficult truth we don’t want to face - and other times it will be an aspect of them that we want to integrate into ourself. Our choice of friends, though it may seem personal, is never accidental! They all bring us lessons in self awareness and acceptance.

As a little experiment- think back over the many different friendships and relationships you’ve had over the years.

How have those interactions affected you?

Have you changed aspects of yourself because of them?

Have you lost faith?

Have you made an unconscious decision to never trust again?

Have you integrated positive aspects from someone?

Or negative ones?

How have these interactions influenced the person you are today?

As a final note 📝 consider what you would like to change if you could? Are you being true to yourself? Do you show up authentically in all your relationships? Or are you afraid to speak your truth and be the person you are?

Remember you are loved exactly as you are - in this moment now - ❤️ and accepting that fact will free you to face yourself - warts n all - with confidence that all you need will find you and that the lessons you need will come to you for your greatest good. You are never alone.

As always - much love

Carole X